So, Happy New Year. Happy New You. Unless, of course, you are already doing the same shit from last year. For the past two years, I have declared that "this is gonna be my year!!!!"--and wait for it...wait for it...NOTHING CHANGED.
It was more anti-climactic than Y2K. I was still at the same suck ass job, with the same crazy people who demand your respect but give little or none in return. But, I was informed that I should or could not complain about my job, because I did in fact have one. We don't tell people in abusive relationships to "Just be glad you have a partner.", so for me it was kinda the same thing. Sorry, I digress. Anyway, I realized the error of my ways. I was singing the same song. The same one he is singing.
The reality is that waiting is the easier path. I decided to make some changes. The reality is that my work experience has helped me realize that I need to work for myself. Fucking scary. I will have to cut the cord, and rise or fall on my own dime. I am putting the steps in place and realizing a few things.
The first thing is that the very reasons we cite for not doing something are the same reasons we should use to move forward. For me, it was "how will I feed my kids?", "How will I do as a business owner?" Well, I hope to find out about the second but if you know my crew, you also know that they last time they skipped food was the birthday cake at Methuselah's fifth birthday party.
The second thing I learned was that just because people know you doesn't mean they are invested in you. Some of your best friends have no interest in seeing you grow. There are tough choices to make about with whom to share what. Real talk. I hope to look back on this at the end of the year and say "You Went Girl."
I have my strategic plan, my mentor, my vision, my faith and a fistful of bills that tell me I can do this. So, my suck ass job, is sucking a little less and has become the source of my strength. I know that I can develop a model and show people how to change their organizations from OHHELLNO to THISISHOWWEDOIT. So, Happy New Year to you and make sure that the ball that's dropping isn't yours. Be on the bus or under it. I think so, and what?
You are inspiring! Be sure to Chronicle as you go. It will be the go-to book for all who follow.
ReplyDeleteAnd about friends who aren't "invested"? Save them for later, they'll be your best advertisement, once you've climbed and struggled to the place you want to be. Struggle? Yes. Life requires struggle, from the time we struggle from the comfort of our mother's womb. Struggle is what wins rewards. Let us know how we can help!